SAMPLE ROMANTIC COMPATIBILITY

Bill and Clare, 2 Perfectionists

Perfectionists work hard to provide the best of everything for the family, and both can be counted on to teach the kids responsibility. Their primary need in life is to do things "right." Read that: Do it his way. In fact, these two are driven to be as good and as perfect as possible, and there are likely to be some interesting discussions about exactly how each task should be accomplished. If this couple can learn to be flexible and negotiate an outcome that will satisfy both of them, everyone will be happier. It's a good idea to practice giving in once in a while, even though it probably takes a major effort for them to do so.

These two have very high standards and both are willing to shoulder more than their share of responsibility. When there are two Perfectionists in a relationship each understands that need to do their absolute best.

However, because they tend to be rule-oriented, if they are not to appear cold or unfeeling, they need to remind themselves
to take time out to show their affection on a regular basis.

Because they are concerned about their financial security, there are unlikely to be many fights about money, but they may need to be on guard against penny-pinching.

While other types may find the Perfectionist's critical nature hard to take, two Perfectionists living together understand how to deal with it. What they don't always recognize is the importance of lightening up and just having some fun from time to time. No one can work all the time. Well, maybe the conscientious Perfectionist can. The problem is, when both partners in the relationship get caught up in the myriad of projects they feel are important, there may not be enough time left over for them as a couple, or for the family. If they recognize the need to put social activities on the schedule, they can force themselves to have fun!

Because the Perfectionist doesn't relate as well to his emotions as to his intellect, there is a tendency to push them aside or ignore them. Thus, when disagreements arise, rather than having a calm, rational discussion about the issues, these two either retreat into a shell of silence or go into their "hypercritical" mode. Neither of them is willing to back down, and it may be necessary to call in a referee to avoid a knock-down, drag-out argument. Two Perfectionists together can get things really log-jammed. The basic problem is, giving up control is very difficult thing for the Perfectionist to do. Learning to give way and compromise, even a little bit, could be of great benefit to the relationship.

Because they set their standards high and value what their partner achieves, Perfectionists work hard to earn the other's love.

This is the type of couple who gets involved in local community affairs, heads the PTA, and organizes the neighborhood Easter Egg Hunt. They will organize all the household chores and divide them up equally, making sure that everyone does their fair share.

For the Perfectionist, expressing his softer side is quite a challenge. Just the thought of having to make himself vulnerable makes him cringe, so broadening his sexuality may be a little threatening. But learning to act spontaneously and each Perfectionist finding the little kid in the other can open up a whole new world for them.